Hi Zita,
I have been engaged with my bf for 5 months now and we're getting married next year. We've been together for 3 years and we broke up a few times before we were engaged.
When we first dated, I couldn't seem to forget about my ex-bf and we kept seeing each other secretly. One day, he found out after he checked my phone and he slapped me. I was hurt and we broke up for 2 weeks. He came to apologize to me and said he shouldn't have slapped me. Since I knew I was wrong in the first place, I forgave him.
After that, I stopped seeing my ex-bf and I gave him 100% of my love. I changed a lot for him and all of my friends are surprised of how much I changed for him. I used to be very emotional, but now whenever I'm sad, I could only keep it to myself because he's always mad at me when I'm sad. Whenever I cry, he just ignores me and thinks I'm annoying. Even though we live together, he spends 99% of his time on his computer and we don't really talk.
Just last week, my bf told me that he was actually very unhappy when he proposed. He proposed just because he spent so much time to plan and wanted to execute the plan. And he said he was still very unhappy whenever he thought about me and my ex-bf.
I told him it was long time ago and I have done so much to prove to him that he's my only one. But he said it's very hard to build up his confidence on me. He admits that he has issues trusting me. Now he doesn't even hug me or kiss me anymore and I don't feel any love from him.
We have already told everyone that we're getting married and I don't know if I should break the engagement. I love him so much but at the same time, I feel like he will never trust me again and his love is fading away. I feel that it's hard to live with someone who is not loving.
I want to try to improve our relationship but I feel like I have done everything I could already. What should I do?
Sad
Sad︰
搬開住會是一個方法。有時候，愛情需要以退為進。
他向你求過婚，他當然是有誠意娶你，可是，他也過不到信任這一關，兼且，愛意漸淡。
你或他搬開的話，反而能讓他真正清楚對你的感覺。也許，他會掛念，他會真正懂得原諒，他會明白，前事不重要，重要的是，你能留在他身邊。
如今日對夜對，根本就無空間去重新製造愛的感覺。
其實，你都知道，無愛的關係是如何的沉鬱苦悶。
千萬不要逼他在這種不愛你的時刻去夾硬和你結婚，這才是最錯最錯的一回事。
其他人會想些甚麼，有何重要？天下間可以八掛的事那麼多，他們才不會想日日八掛你們的關係。
你也不要逼自己好愛好愛他。他不愛你，又冷待你，為人又自私，你應該正正常常地從心裡衍生出一些反感。
縱然你背叛過他，你如今並不需要做到太痴情。他對你不好，你就要不高興，然後，也停止對他好。直至，他知道要對你好了，你才回報他應得的愛意。
我希望你知道，有些緣份，就算你盡力挽救過，都不能再健康地繼續。有些緣份，根本就會完。
要是搬開了之後，他都一樣覺得不能愛你，那麼，你的下半生，就完全與他無關了。
真愛，當中是有原諒的。他死也不願意真心原諒你，這段關係，根本就無存在過愛。放棄了的話，你不必可惜。
深雪覆
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